Simcha and Suri

Young, divorced with 2 children, I was finding it a challenge to meeting my Bashert!

One of my co-workers pushed me for about 2 months to register on Frumster. I kept saying no, because, to be honest, I come from a good home, I'm a frum person, middle class and I felt that using the internet to meet a guy was very "sleazy".

But this guy at work pushed me and said that I should just do it for fun, what have I got to lose, and if I really hate it I could just stop, so I agreed, but I only registered myself refused to do any searches.

I basically wrote the truth about myself because I wasnât doing this to play games. I did not put any pictures on, I felt that it was too ãcheapä, and I wanted to meet someone who was interested in me for who I am as a person and if it would reach the point where I needed to see what he looked like, I would take it from there.

Nobody answered for about 10 days, and then I got one response. The guy was very nice, but he was 10 years older than me, and had children of marriageable age. I live in Israel, and a lot of the people on Frumster lived overseas, so they would write to me an email at night, and I would receive it in the morning. I work at a high-tech company, so I was at a computer 9 hours a day, and had constant access to my emails. Overtime, this guy wrote to me a few times a day, and I answered him. He was very nice, but not for me, and he wanted to fly out to meet me. After about 3 weeks of corresponding, I knew he wasn't for me and didn't know how to break it off, and I was kicking myself why I signed on to this web site, and I got myself into a mess· but just about the same time a guy from Manchester, England wrote to me. His first 2 emails were a lot of fun, and we hit it off right away. That was when I decided to end it with the other guy and see what happens. Iâd like to point out that the whole correspondence used up a lot of my time, in general, and I was beginning to wonder if I should be doing more useful things with my time, but it got to a point that I started really enjoying the emails from Manchester and I was looking forward to them. We corresponded for about 2 weeks, but pretty often ö several times a day. Which at this point, I decided to give him my personal email address and not correspond through Frumster. Because, I had to login each time etc·

Then, about a week later he started asking me for my phone number- I was extremely hesitant, because this guy couldâve been lying through his teeth about himself- he couldâve been married or G-d knows what else. Thatâs when I decided to check him out. First I told my parents, who helped me check him out, then I called over 60 people- I am divorced, I lost a lot of trust in men and I wasnât interested in messing up my life with the wrong guy. It turned out that he had a lot of very close relatives in Bayit Vegan where I grew up, and a lot of people knew his family. After thoroughly checking him out, I gave him my phone number. He called that night, and I was nervous as hell. He sounded even nicer over the phone (maybe because I didn't understand his English accent). We spoke for about 2 weeks, during which we decided to exchange pictures over the Internet. The pictures gave me an idea, but it is very hard to tell until you actually see him in person. After he saw my beautiful picture, he insisted on flying out to Israel to go out with me. I got really scared and felt that it was going to far too fast. Although it was only one date, he had to fly out to another country for this- so it wasnât just a date. I finally agreed, as I was just as eager to go out with him as he was with me. But I made a condition that he had to come for other reasons also; vacation or other dates, and I only committed myself to one date. I was sure that this was too good to be true- we clicked in everything, but there had to be something wrong with him- there was probably no chemistry. I mean, what are the chances of 2 nice good, frum people meeting over the Internet and actually getting married- especially when they live in 2 different countries???

He picked me up in Ramat Beit Shemesh, where I live. And Iâd like to point out that it was the evening that a group of terrorists infiltrated into Beit shemesh, and they closed all the roads, but· he showed up and I couldnât believe that he was actually really cute!

The rest is history. We hit it off and dated for several months- he flew back and forth 7 or 8 times to see me, and I went to Manchester once to meet his family and to make sure that my ãinternet guyä really had a life in the city that he said he was from.

We got married on December 26th, 2002 (Our first email was June 16th, 2002), and we are both, bli ayin hara, very very happy. I highly recommend trying to meet someone over the Internet, it is much less stressful then blind dating, and it is also a much easier way to meet. Unfortunately, there are so few ways to meet people. Iâve always hated singles weekends, and I am very weary of Shadchanim. This is so much simpler, and the best part is, if you really meet a creepy guy, you can get rid of him with just a click of a mouse!

I would just like to point out that my husband when he initially started doing searches on Frumster, clicked on the box of the age group below mine. I was 36 and he was 35. When he started he search, he requested up to age 35, when nothing came up, he decided to widen his search and added the next age- thatâs where I popped up.

For all those people out there that are looking for a lifetime partner, I wish you lots of luck, and I hope that Frumster will help you meet that one special person.

If it happened to me, it can happen to anyone. 

Simcha and Suri Fulda, Frumster Match #8, were married on 21 Tevet 5763,  December 26th, 2002